Having an invisible illness is literally one of the most infuriating things to explain. If it can’t be seen then you get some people who do try and say :
- ah well you don’t look ill
- You don’t have anything to be anxious about
- You can’t be in that much pain, you’re always running about laughing and joking
So those right there are some of the most annoying phrases I get to hear every now and again. Lovely eh? My illnesses are invisible and whilst I can’t control that, people do need to realise that just because they can’t see them doesn’t mean they’re not real.
My illnesses don’t define me, and they certainly don’t control me. Okay maybe the second one is a little white lie as if I’m having a rough day then i do want to scream but hey ho life goes on.
Even during my darkest days, I’ve gone out and put on my brave face. I have smiled, laughed, danced and been out enjoying myself. Somedays can be harder than others as at the end of the day I had to go back and deal with however I was feeling and try to find the cause of it.
Trying to avoid letting people know how I’m feeling is something I’m trying to become a master of. Comments and murmurs are something that really doesn’t help and can actually make me feel a hell of a lot worse.
Regardless of if my illnesses can be seen or can’t be seen doesn’t mean I cannot go out and have a good time. Quite the opposite, anything to help me feel even the slightest bit normal (which is totally overrated by the way) is welcomed!
So before you speak, have a little think. Be nice to people we are all battling something.